Monday, 30 June 2014

Growing Up

After reading my friend Sammy's blog post yesterday called "Are You Satisified?" - this sparked something inside of me to write about a similar topic.

I'm going to start from the beginning - what did I want to be when I grew up?
I remember one of the first things I wanted to be was a veterinary nurse, my love for animals (cats especially) had always been there for as long as I can remember. Then I wanted to be a popstar, just like the Spice Girls - I religiously listened to all of their music, and even gave my mother performances in my bedroom singing along to their songs on a regular basis. After that, I guess I stopped knowing what I wanted to do, what I wanted to become.

You have one life, and to be pressured into choosing what career to have at such a young age - well it wasn't a choice I could ever find a particular answer to. I know I enjoyed singing, and I also had a deep love for art. School was great until I was 8 years old, I loved learning. In fact, school was probably my favourite place to be... until I moved schools. It got harder to concentrate, especially with the pressure of making new friends, or in my case... not many. I still tried my best, but school became an environment I didn't like anymore. My attendance soon dropped, which also meant my grades did too. 

Long story short - I was bullied for the majority of my school life (this isn't a sob story, I'm so over that era of my life now) I finished secondary school with 3 GCSE's. Yes, you read that correctly. Three. I got B's in English Literature, English Language and Art. 

The end of school quickly arrived, and I still had no idea of what I wanted to do. So I stuck with what I knew best. Art. I went to art college for 3 years, and it was probably the best 3 years of my life. That also came to an end, I felt as though I didn't have much time left to decide where my life was taking me. So I stayed inside my little box of comfort and familiarity - I went to Birmingham City University to study BA Art and Design. Worst decision of my life.

"I did this because that's what I thought was the right thing to do. Don't get me wrong, I'm ever so fortunate to have been able to have achieved these things and have been lucky enough to make it to uni, and I loved the experience... but that's not for everyone." - Sammy Albon

To this day, I regret going to university. I went because I didn't know what else to do, maybe I could have become a teacher. University sucked the passion out of me, it took away something inside of me that made me enjoy art - which is sad.

So I finished university with a high 2:2 - (bare in mind that I came away from college with a triple Distinction, which is like an A*) so I was devastated. 

What now? My parents are going to be majorly disappointed in me (they weren't, they're the most supportive life givers I could have asked for haha) I was disappointed in myself. I felt as though I was stuck in a rut

The only thing I enjoyed doing to take my mind off the stress of GIANT life decisions was YouTube. How cliche, I know. I worked in bars/pubs for a while, which I hated - it was poor money, long hours... for nothing much in return. I certainly didn't want to work in a bar for the rest of my life, that was a scary thought. So I quit.

I then found myself with all of this spare time, days started merging into each other. "What am I doing with my life?" I kept asking myself. 

Until somehow, my hobby became my job
And I never looked back. (Wow, this really does sound like a romantic novel or something!)

I guess my point being, after all of this rambling/back story is - life can be whatever you want it to be. You don't have to stick to society's perfect template of life. Yes becoming a doctor, a lawyer are amazing jobs to have, which will earn you a lot of money - and that's ok, if you enjoy it.

I'd never want to do a job, no matter HOW much the pay was if I wasn't happy or didn't enjoy it - because money cannot buy anyone happiness

YouTube ended up becoming my 'career' (which I use loosely, because to me, it just feels like a full-time hobby which I enjoy) because it kept my mind active, and it kept my creative juices flowing. It's not been easy, but I enjoy every single second - and feel extremely blessed to be given the opportunities I get given.

"I have absolutely no problem telling people I run a YouTube channel with my twin brother, a blog, and I work part-time. What I do have a problem with is defending the first two against claims that 'that's not a proper job.'"

"If a 'proper job' means I need to be miserable for the rest of my life, then I'm gonna pass. I want to see a world where kids are encouraged to follow their passions and dreams, where it's not 'weird' to try something and it's not all about money." - Sammy Albon

The most awkward question I have to answer is when I am asked "What's your job?" - society still doesn't like to accept what myself and many others do as a job. We often get told "That's not a real job" - isn't it? It's what I spent all of my time doing, and I earn money from it. Therefore - it's a "proper" job. Yes it may not be your standard 9 - 5, but that doesn't mean that we work any less harder than anybody else. Most people think that a 3 minute video takes 3 minutes... try 3 hours - probably more. Not forgetting all of the business emails and social media to keep up with on a daily basis.

I'll tell you one thing, I never once thought growing up that I'd be working for myself. You don't know where life will take you, but one thing is for sure - you have to enjoy what you do, and if you're happy, then you've made it. Life should be about happiness. Am I happy? Yes. Could I be happier? Yes. Never stop reaching for more. One day I want a family and children, I have no idea when life is going to give it to me. I guess that's the exciting part.

You can be whatever you want to be.



  1. This was a truly endearing read, Cherry. I agree wholeheartedly with every single point you made. My favourite part of the whole post was 'Am I happy? Yes. Could I be happier? Yes. Never stop reaching for more,' - that's something we can all learn to do.

    I hope the coming years clear up what it means to 'work hard' and that society begins to understand that there really isn't one all-encompassing cookie-cutter mould for kids to fit into.

    Great read, thanks for the response, I loved it!

  2. I am going to college this year and people ask me what I want to do. My answer is to be happy. That is all I want to be. I am going to college because I know the general direction I want to go in... but it is not set in stone. My goal is 100% happiness.

  3. Yes! I totally agree! I wish that people were having conversations like this before I went to college. There is a lot of pressure to do things because you 'have to' but really success means different things to different people. Thanks Cherry!
    xoxo Sydney

  4. That was brilliant to read, and I agree wholeheartedly. I read Sammy's post yesterday, and agree with him completely too. I went to Uni for Art as well, and also came out with a high 2:2.. and I lost all interest in art. I've been self-employed ever since (inc. making youtube videos) and as much as I hate the "when are you getting a proper job" questions and glances, I'd take them over doing something I hate, any day.

  5. What a lovely and inspiring post! I read Sammy Albon's post as well on his blog & I apologise if my comment is exactly the same buuuuuttt...I always think about the fact that when I ask people 'what do you want to do?' I don't really want to hear about their job or the fact that they want a double-door garage & 2.5 kids (though that's a great dream!) I want to know 'what is the effect you want to have created in the rooms you've left behind'. To further that point, the rooms you haven't even entered yet. Bloggers, writers, youtubers, they all create such an amazing worldwide effect of positive thinking on the younger generation & I think that's SO unbelievably worthwhile. :)


  6. This is great Cherry! I myself am thinking about whether university is the right choice for me and this post is really helpful, thankyou <3

  7. That was amazing Cherry! Thank you for posting this :) your blog is amazing so far ^_^

  8. I love this post!! And could not agree more. Happiness over money any day. My time is precious and I want to spend my valuable days doing something I actually enjoy rather than sit at a job that I hate, waiting for each hour to go by.

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